what a beautiful thing, to be queer. how lovely it is to be strange, to have edges that spill out over the lines, to be undefinable. the oddity of our hearts is something to be treasured. never change for anyone.
my tummy is sooo chaotic i had the worst day i think i’m crushing on a MAN again.
﹟random get-to-know-me ask game !!
orchid ⇢ what’s a song you consider to be perfect?
cactus ⇢ something you’re currently learning (about)?
bamboo ⇢ do you change into a different outfit when you get home?
abelia ⇢ do you have a particular piece of jewelry you always wear or can’t part with?
daffodil ⇢ do you have siblings? if yes, in what ways do you think you’re similar to or different from them?
mahonia ⇢ what place, thing, activity inspires you most and how do you express yourself when it does?
chia ⇢ what’s an inside joke you have with someone else?
sage ⇢ what ‘medium’ of art (poetry, music, fiction, paintings, statues etc.) is the most touching to you? why do you think that is?
edelweiss ⇢ how’d you think of your url/username? what’s it associated with to you?
camellia ⇢ what were you like when you were younger? do you think you’ve changed a lot?
jasmine ⇢ do you have a movie or book you loved but will never watch/read again?
ivy ⇢ what are your ‘tells’ for your emotions and moods? how can someone tell you’re happy, annoyed, upset or tired?
chamomile ⇢ what kind of things do you like receiving as gifts?
aloe vera ⇢ what’s something (mundane) you really want to experience in life?
palm tree ⇢ do you have a fictional villain you shouldn’t like but love regardless?
nutmeg ⇢ how’s your room/home decorated? do you have a specific theme or style going on?
papyrus ⇢ if you put your ‘on repeat’ playlist on shuffle, what’s the first song that comes up? what do you like about it / associate it with?
taro ⇢ if someone called you right now to catch up, what’re the things you’d tell them about?
Reblogging to potentially save a fur friends life
[Text ID: Calling all dog owners: The doctors and team at Bryan Animal Clinic want you to know that the artificial sweeten Xylitol is now being marketed as “birch sugar”
Xylitol is extremely toxic to dogs and can cause liver failure. It is commonly found in peanut butter, chewing gum, and ice cream. End ID.]
we need to start being annoying the same way blue eyed people have been annoying for years. my eyes are coffee brown with a hint of olive and earthy soil, but on rainy days they become, like, more wood brown? you know like king arthur's table i guess? if you look at them in the sunlight they become almost golden though so it's really hard to pin them down haha. yeah no it's crazy i was just born like this i guess
Jane Austen was really out there 200 years ago writing lines like “If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more” that to this day are still so swoon-worthy.
anchoredhopes asked:
betsie i just have to tell you i saw an uncircumcised penis for the first time the other day (i work in healthcare and i was putting a catheter in) and it looked like one of those worms from the scifi movies in the eighties. granted. the man was like 79. but still!!
stumbleonhometomycats answered:
Anonymous asked:
I watched an interview Taylor Lautner and his wife (with the same exact name btw) did to promote their new podcast and in the interview he says he doesn't do any of their social media stuff, his wife is in charge of their tiktok and all. Still weird clout chasing vibes but I think it's an interesting bit re: the recent social media use. Like he could have a say in picking videos/topics if he had an issue.
idsb answered:
That makes a LOT of sense - and makes me hate him less - but she has GOT to stop esp because like. Nothing he is talking about is shit tht Taylor Lautner would believably engage with???? Like girl make your own account wtf 😭
anchoredhopes asked:
anonymous besties and holly bestie i agree with all of you about the cropping of the photo and the jawline and the pop of purple (although i think it’s a nice continuation of the purple from SOUR) and the jawline thing and the bandaids and the song theme possibly being diss like in nature and the WEFIL song possibly being about emma stone and andrew garfield AND the way you guys say tennis shoes ‘tennisshoes’ really fast does sound like ‘tennyshoes’ so true !!! but the thing i think i agree with most is how fuckinh SICK it would be with sparkly purple glitter blood leaking down. however then certain people would accuse her of copying taylor again with the purple glitter blood so she really can’t win imo
idsb answered:
DGSHHDJDJDKSKKS I love this ask I love you so much and yes yes YES to purple glitter blood that would’ve been SICK
a host playlist in 3 parts (inc. the obviously much-anticipated vinyl release. Isn't that so nice and a normal thing to do??)
thx to @whydoistilllikethehost for sourcing the screenshots so I didn't have to
I?!!! IT?!!!!!!! !!!!?? !!??!!!!!!!.!!!!.!!!!!:!!(!!?!
I hope random brands turn their logo rainbow for no goddamn reason. I hope they do it even if its a desperate bid to seem supportive. I dont fucking care if its shallow. Bud light made a limited edition rainbow can and white men with big trucks took machine guns on them. Target runs a line of admittedly cringe rainbow merchandise and is the subject of domestic terrorism. A random company going rainbow for a month is shallow but its showing the people that want to kill us that they can't win. The pride flag will be everywhere and itll piss them off and theres nothing they can do about it. No matter how much violence and hatred they dish out, they'll be too many goddamn companies to boycott, to threaten. You dont have to buy shit from them, just use rainbow capitalism against them.
You’re not lazy, you’re neurodivergent:
A post on executive dysfunction, ADHD inattentiveness and hyperfocus, and whatever else occurred to me as related as I originally wrote this for twitter.
If you’re like me, you’ve probably been called lazy by people in your life. But the thing is, there’s almost no-one (if anyone) who’s actually lazy. And I promise you, if you’ve felt guilty because there are things you should be doing and can’t get them done? You are NOT lazy.
I’ll get to executive dysfunction, the main focus of this thread in a moment. Because I want to start by talking about ADHD and hyperfocus.
Is it hard for you to pay attention to things you don’t enjoy, but can focus for hours on things you do?
Does the world ever disappear to the point you forget to eat/drink while you’re working? Can you suddenly get days worth of work done in a short amount of time, but only once it’s the last minute, or when you get into the zone? But you don’t necessarily have control over getting into that mode?
Hyperfocus
The reason this is related to this thread is that often this is the “proof” that you’re lazy. Look, if you’re interested you get things done! Look at how much you can do when you “just make yourself” or “just focus”! Clearly you just don’t want to do the thing.
I can’t tell you how many days I’ve sat there trying to get into a zone that’s eluding me, losing sleep and feeling guilty, just to finally hyperfocus in the final day and pull out a miracle.
But I have ZERO ability to force it (I have tricks! but it’s not the same).
Hyperfocus often gets brought up as a “you can’t have ADHD, look how focus on the things you enjoy! Look what happens when you do focus!”
But actually, it’s a major aspect of inattentive ADHD!
So, that’s why hyperfocus matters in this convo.
Now onto Executive Dysfunction.
To start with, a quick note: Executive dysfucntion is not just an ADHD thing. It’s an aspect of a lot of different neurodivergencies.
Also, this is primarily from my perspective as a person with ADHD, I’d love to hear your versions of these experiences!)
I like to describe executive dysfunction as “the start button isn’t there.”
Also, this isn’t just for chores or boring things.
Have you ever sat there going “I want to game” but it just never happens?
I sure have!
When you have executive dysfunction, this means that starting tasks can be near impossible. You just can’t get yourself to start it. Often, you may sit there staring at the document with the blinking cursor, or looking at the stove, or glancing at the full laundry basket, etc
But again, there’s no start button. You just can’t do the thing. Which makes it really hard when people tell you to just focus, or that you could do it if you just cared, or that you’re just lazy.
Because we want to do the thing! We do!
(I mean, okay, want may be a strong word sometimes, I never WANT to do chores, but it’s still not an intentional putting it off. It’s more an “I need to do this thing, I know I need to, I want it to be done, but I can’t get myself to do it”)
Now for me, and many with ADHD, once someone points out you haven’t done the thing, or when the deadline comes close, suddenly the start button appears
Which again, people use as proof you totally could have done the thing the whole time.
So clearly you were just lazy & are only doing it cause you got yelled at/prodded/nagged.
But this isn’t true, there was no start button!
@adhd-alien has a PERFECT comic on this: https://twitter.com/ADHD_Alien/status/1138475368191598594
Now, we learn tricks to deal with this. Or meds may help.
For me, I find ways to enforce outside deadlines, or I’m more likely to have. a start button for something I’m doing with/for other people.
But ultimately, our brains just don’t work the same.
So for someone where the start buttons are always there, who assumes everyone is the same as them, it looks like we’re actively making the choice not to hit start.
So they call us lazy, unable to see us desperately trying to hit a button that’s just. Not. There.
Now, add on to this all the other comorbidities that come with neurodivergency, we almost never have just one thing. Add on physical disabilities or chronic/invisible illnesses or chronic pain or fatigue.
All of these make it so much harder.
There are SO many things that affect our abilities to get things done.
For example, I had a doctor appointment four days in a row (OT, neurologist, OT, infusion). I also helped schedule an event, and did a stream.
Before MS and chronic pain that would be nothing.
I could have done SO much more, filled my days with getting things done.
Now? I’m spending today on the couch, recovering before my stream tonight.
And I have to fight so much guilt, because I feel like I should be doing more. But my body just CAN’T.
So.
Do you feel guilty, but you just can’t start the thing?
Is there no start button?
Are you exhausted and your body is insisting you rest?
There are so many things that affect our ability to do things.
Brains, bodies, the world we live in.
But you’re not lazy.